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Life does NOT have to be THAT tough!!! and other stuff:)
Life does not have to be that tough. a rather obvious statement, right?
Well apparently not obvious enough for most people. From what I've observed in my 48 yrs on this planet,
people continue to go out of their way time and again to make life as difficult and as painful as humanely
possible. Personally I think it's all a little sick. Yes, I know, we all say or do things that we wish we had not,
but there appears to be a proponderance of people who seem to enjoy making extremely poor decisions.
painful decisions. I'm talking about decisions that can just really screw ones life up. sometimes for a
lifetime. Decisions like doing drugs; drinking to excess
on a constant basis; getting into fights[ this looks REALLY bad as you get into your 30's, 40's, & 50's ];
voting for the same stupid, corrupt, lying jerks over and over, [like someday they will actually do what they
say they will do, right......}; misspending your money and then complaining you're broke; smoking for 30
yrs and then mad because you have cancer, so you sue the tobacco companies; acting like a 3 yr old all the
time and then wondering why you don't have many friends; and the list goes on. I will discuss these and
others at greater length in the following chapters.
Please understand, this is not a book meant to tear anyone down and I'm not trying to pass judgement on anyone.
It is simply about being open and honest and
getting people to use their brain. I am writing this in hope that it will open the eyes of some and at least make
others think. My inspiration for this book has come from a lifetime of watching friends and family, as
well as others make life far harder than it EVER needed to be. this includes myslef:) I believe that there
are a few simple rules that if people lived by, this world be a MUCH better place. Here they are.
1) be honest with yourself and others
2) just be nice
3) don't be afraid to love or to be loved
4) treat others as you would have them treat you
5) don't be afraid of success. no matter whether it's monetary, in relationships, or anything else
6) remember, God is in control, not you. and that is a good thing. A very good thing:)
I sincerely hope that you enjoy the book.
Chapter One: Money..........................
They say one of the main reasons for divorce is money and I must say that in talking with people
it certainly seems to be true.
One of the biggest problems for people when it comes to money is that they have no self control. If they see
something on tv, they gotta have it. or if the neighbor has something bigger and better, they gotta match
the neighbor. This is just a bit on the not smart side, as well as being immature.
Also, people are constantly spending more than they make. this is not the road to financial freedom............
Look folks, all it takes is some self control. Learn to save a little or a lot, out of each
check. Learn to be patient. Rome was not built in a day and neither will your savings account. Take the time
and learn about stocks and bonds. High yield vs high growth.
Here's a very simple rule to remember: Live BELOW your means. not within, not above, but BELOW.
If you are able to do this little, but very important concept and adopt the strategy, you will be
amazed by how much easier and less stressful your life will become.
Also, remember this, money can NOT make you happy. All it does is to give you more options. options that
you may already have and just be to blind to see. Be grateful for what you have and stop worrying about
what you don't have. Concentrate on today and plan for tomorrow.
It's not THAT tough. just use the brain................you know, that gray matter between your ears.:)
Chapter Two: Relationships........................
This is a BIGGIE!!! This is the one area that most people just can't get right. Here's a quick and easy rule to
remember. If someone doesn't want to treat you in a considerate, kind, and loving manner; then
don't allow them in your life. Life is to "long" to put up with a bunch of crap and stupidity. I have no
sympathy for those who choose to live with an alcoholic, drug addict, angry person, grouchy person, whiney
person, or any other screwed up behavior.
I cannot believe all the books telling people how to deal with a partner who has "behavioral" problems.
Listen, the BEST way to deal with them is to simply kick their sorry rear-end out the door and divorce them.
I realize that this is easier said than done, but the sooner you do it, the happier you'll be. If you
don't give shit, then why take it? unless you just get off on their stupidity and abuse and the chaos
that comes from living with someone like that. If that's the case, then stay with them. I am well aware
that many people enjoy playing the role of nursemaid, mommy, and cheerleader. These people are
often referred to as co-dependent. I just call them,"plain ole STUPID!!!"................
I will now speak briefly for those men [ of which I am one and proud of it:) ] who are kind, warm, loving,
considerate and NICE !!!!!!!!!!!!!
When one of you women meet us and fall in love, please remember, treat us in the same manner as we
treat you. Also, DON'T over analyze us!!! We really are nice. and that is a good thing. A very good thing:)
Here's something else that all you women might want to remember, when nice guys don't finish first,
neither do you........think about that:)
And men, the same thing goes for nice women. Be as kind to them, as they are to you. Life is so much
more pleasant that way.
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Chapter 3...........
Control, the ultimate illusion of all time.
I'm sure you've all heard someone say something like," I just want to get control of my life." It's a nice
enough thought, but is it realistic? Yes and no. Yes, in the sense that we all have control of how we decide to
react to certain situations, but no, in the sense that we have very little if any control over what others do,
not to mention things like the weather.
For myself, I've never before felt as though I've had so much control in my life as I do now. why you ask
and how did I get there? Well, I've given over, for the most part, my life to God. By doing so, I have found life
to be far easier and MUCH less stressful.
Kinda odd huh. By giving up control, I've gained control.
The fact is, the more one "attempts" to gain control, the more chaotic their life becomes............
Chapter 4: Therapists and Therapy.......................
It is my ever so humble opinion that therapy and therapists are wayyy over rated. Far more often than not
a good friend or family member can help more than a so-called professional. and it's cheaper:) Plus, your
family and friends will tend to be more honest:) But if you insist on wasting your money, by all means,
go to a regular therapist.
Chapter 5: Drugs, Alcohol, Being Mentally, Physically or Verbally Abusive...............
Let me get right to the point. If anyone "thinks" that they can abuse alcohol, drugs, or people, or have an addiction
like gambling and that it's not going to totally screw up their life, then they DO need counseling. All you're
doing is making life way tougher than it need be. but hey, whatever turns you on..........
Chapter 6: Mind Games and Relationships.....................
I continue to be amazed at the large number of people who enjoy playing "mind games" in their relationships.
I have always felt that if I wanted to play games, that I could play basketball, football, chess, checkers,
cards, and well, you get the point. I've held firm to the belief that "mind games" were the biggest waste of time and
one of the best ways to kill a great relationship. Mind games are a way for a person to gain "control" over the
other. talk about dumb......... For anyone to want to control the person that they "supposedly" love and care
soooooo much for, I think is sick and pathetic.
Now I understand that we need to control those people who are a danger to society, but to want control
over those we love....................that's just not "healthy" or smart. just my opinion.
Chapter 7: Gays.........................
Talk about one of them there "hot topics":)))))
Personally I wish there were more gay men, because then that would make more women available for me:)
As for the attractive lesbians; bummer dude.......
Seriously now...............For those of you who firmly believe that "true" gays are committing a sin, I
would like for you to think about a few things.
1) Is God all knowing? I believe He is.
2) Is God infallible? Well, He did make the mosquito, but hey, we're all entitled to one mistake. So,
therefore, The Big Guy is basically error free.
3) Do you understand genetics? I understand genetics well enough to know that they determine
eye and hair color, height, skin color, and gender, as well
a whole host of other stuff.
Here's my point. I could care less what someones sexual preference is. For one, I trust that God knows
what He's doing. For another, I understand the role that genetics plays. It's BIG. why? Because
God determined it to be so. That may not be good enough for you, but it's good enough for me.
The gays who are "genetically" gay, are the ones I call "true" gays.
I would like to discuss briefly the role that drugs, alcohol, and rape play in regards to homosexuality today.
I have recently spent a 1 1/2 yrs working at a college apartment complex and 2 yrs working with
"troubled" teenagers. Kids as young as 9 and 10 yrs of age are getting drunk and drugged up and
committing acts of sex and violence that they would otherwise never even think about doing.
Also, we have an increasing number of adult sex offenders who are "perpping" on young kids.
talk about messing a kids mind up big time..................What I'm trying to say is this. Once a kid has
performed a homosexual act even one time, whether it be under the influence of drugs or alcohol
or by way of rape, the kids life has been forever altered. If you think that this is false, then I would
suggest that you get out there and work with some young kids who have been
perpped on. try working with a kid who's been perpped on by his dad. there's a good time for you. NOT!!!
In regards to gays and "special laws"; I consider it all to be a bunch of crap. period.
As far as gays being able to marry??? People are constantly saying that gays will make a joke
of marriage. Give me a break! Elizabeth Taylor, Mickey Rooney, Larry King, and millions of other people
have already beat them to the punch. For longer than I've been alive, people have been getting
married multiple times, cheating like a dog on their spouse, as well as committing other rotten acts
on their spouses. The fact is, gays could not possibly make a bigger joke of marriage than it
already is.
As for gays and having the same insurance as a heterosexual couple, that is up to the company. NOT
the goverenment.
I say we put it to a vote and let the people decide.
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